Life is long and full of challenges. Most of those
challenges are internal, and depends on how WE choose to accept and interpret them. Our lives can go on very different paths, depending on what we do and how
we look at what happens to us along the way. Here are 10 points of advice that
if followed, will guarantee a better life, one that brings with it true peace
of mind.
Most of us create our own problems by interfering too often
in others’ affairs. We do so because somehow we have convinced ourselves that
our way is the best way, our logic is the perfect logic and those who do not
conform to our thinking must be criticized and steered in the right direction,
our direction. No two human beings can
think or act in exactly the same way. Mind your own business and you will keep
your peace.
2. Forgive And Forget
This is the most powerful aid when it comes peace of mind.
We often develop ill feelings inside our heart for the person who insults us or
harms us. We nurture grievances. This in turn results in loss of sleep,
development of stomach ulcers, and high blood pressure. This insult or injury
was done once, but nourishing of grievance goes on forever by constantly
remembering it. Get over this bad habit. Life is too short to waste on such
trifles. Forgive, forget, and march on. Love flourishes with giving and
forgiving.
3. Do Not Crave Recognition
This world is full of selfish people. They seldom praise
anybody without selfish motives. They may praise you today because you are in
power, but as soon as you are powerless, they will forget your achievement and
will start finding faults in you. Their recognition is not worth the
aggravation. Do your duties ethically and sincerely.
4. Do Not succumb to envy and jealousy
We all have experienced how envy can disturb our peace of
mind. You know that you work harder than your colleagues at the office, but
sometimes they get promotions; you do not. You started a business several years
ago, but you are not as successful as your neighbor whose business is only one
year old. There are several examples like these in everyday life. Should you
envy?
No. Remember everybody’s life is shaped by his/her destiny,
which has now become his/her reality. Nothing will be gained by blaming others
for your misfortune. Jealousy will not get you anywhere, it will only take away
your peace of mind.
5. Change Yourself According To The Environment
If you try to change the environment single-handedly,
chances are you will fail. Instead, change yourself to suit your environment.
As you do this, even the environment, which has been unfriendly to you, will
mysteriously change and seem more congenial and harmonious with your goals.
6. Endure What Cannot Be Cured
This is the best way to turn a disadvantage into an
advantage. Every day we face numerous inconveniences, ailments, irritations,
and accidents that are beyond our control. If we cannot control them or change
them, we must learn to put up with these things. We must learn to endure them
cheerfully. Believe in yourself and you will gain in terms of patience, inner
strength and will power.
7. Do Not Bite Off More Than You Can Chew
This maxim needs to be remembered constantly. We often tend
to take more responsibilities than we are capable of carrying out. This is done
to satisfy our ego. Know your limitations. Why take on additional loads that
may create more worries? You cannot gain peace of mind by expanding your
external activities. Reduce your material engagements and spend time in prayer,
introspection and meditation. This will reduce those thoughts in your mind that
make you restless. An uncluttered mind will produce greater feelings of peace.
8. Meditate Regularly
Meditation calms the mind and gets rid of disturbing
thoughts. This is the highest state of peace of mind. Try it yourself. If you
meditate earnestly for half an hour everyday, your mind will tend to become
peaceful during the remaining twenty three and a half hours. Your mind will not
be as easily disturbed as it was before. You would benefit by gradually
increasing the period of daily meditation. You may think that this will
interfere with your daily work. On the contrary, this will increase your
efficiency and you will be able to produce better results in less time.
9. Never Leave The Mind Vacant
An empty mind is the devil’s workshop. All evil actions
start in the vacant mind. Keep your mind occupied in something positive,
something worthwhile. Actively follow a hobby. Do something that holds your
interest. You must decide what you value more: money or peace of mind. Your
hobby, like social work or charity work, may not always earn you more money,
but you will have a sense of fulfillment and achievement.
10. Do Not Procrastinate And Never Regret
Do not waste time in protracted wondering ”Should I or
shouldn’t I?” Days, weeks, months, and years can be wasted in that futile
mental debating. You can never plan enough because you can never anticipate all
future happenings. Value your time and do the things that need to be done. It
does not matter if you fail the first time. You can learn from your mistakes
and succeed the next time. Sitting back and worrying will lead to nothing.
Learn from your mistakes, but do not brood over the past.
DO NOT REGRET. Whatever happened was destined to happen only
that way. Why cry over spilled milk?
Remember having peace of mind will help your health.
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